Family mediation is a process to help you negotiate with another person, or with other people, when a family relationship breakdown is making it difficult to reach agreement on the practical issues you face.
It helps by:
- Reducing conflict between you and enabling you to address the practical issues that you face at a difficult time
- Improving communication between you, enabling you to hear each other’s views and to work towards reaching agreed solutions
- Talking to your children if you both agree this might be helpful
- Supporting you in implementing decisions about what is best for you and your family – you remain in control of the decisions
Agreements reached in mediation are not legally binding. If you decide you would like a legally binding agreement you can jointly ask the court to make an order by consent. You may wish to ask a solicitor to draft the order, based on the agreements you have reached.
What we offer
We help you during or after a separation or divorce, or at time of other family dispute.
- We use our experience to help explore options that can meet your differing needs.
- Where there are children we focus on their needs as a basis for your decisions about their future and on strategies for dealing with parenting issues in the years ahead; where appropriate we help to add the voice of the child into your decision making.
- We can support you in drawing up a parenting plan together.
- We provide information and a structure to assist you in negotiating a fair decision about the division of your property and finances. This can include taking you both through the process of Open Financial Disclosure.
- We can produce for you a written record of agreements reached and where appropriate prepare documents to enable you to obtain a legally binding agreement. These may include a Parenting Agreement, an Open Financial Statement and/or a Memorandum of Understanding.
What happens next
- We offer you an initial individual assessment meeting called a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM). This meeting is your opportunity to gain the information you need, and to decide whether mediation is the best option for you. Lasting for up to an hour this meeting provides the opportunity for:
- a one-to-one meeting with your mediator to discuss the issues you would like help with and to assist you to look at all the options that are available;
- an exchange of background information – from you about your current situation and from us about what is involved in mediation;
- a two way assessment – for you, the client, and us, the mediator, to decide whether mediation may be suitable;
- discussing how and when to contact the other person to offer them an individual assessment meeting with us.
- If after the assessment meeting you or the other person decide you do not want to go ahead with mediation we can sign your court form to confirm that you have met with us for the assessment meeting (MIAM) which is a requirement before going to court.
- If you both decide to go ahead with mediation we will set up a joint meeting for you both, for one and a half hours, at which your mediator will remain with you throughout.
- We will provide you both with a written summary of your mediation session and the cost of this is included in the cost of the session. This is not a legal agreement but is a helpful summary of options considered and action agreed.
- You decide how many sessions you want; as a guide you may need 2 sessions to reach agreement about child arrangements, and between 3 and 5 sessions where a financial agreement is involved.
- When you have reached agreement, everything that you have agreed in mediation is written up for you.